Why Educated Men Suck With Women & How To Fix It
Hey it’s James from Social Coach. It’s just an another Breakthrough Bootcamp with a whole bunch of guys and my also Female Trainers. On this Bootcamp, he’s a very very smart guy. He’s got a PHD in law from one of the world’s
prestigious universities. He’s in there right now working with one of my Female Trainers who’s a model. He’s really struggling with conversation. He’s trying to get everything perfectly right. He’s questioning and he’s got a million questions about everything. He’s analysing stuff. And he’s in the middle of a really good interaction with one of my Trainers. He basically just sort of spotted and stopped and gave up and because he was fretting over a mistake he made I’ve told him about earlier. That’s one of the reasons why a lot of dare I say simpler, less educated, less successful guys tend to learn this stuff and do much much better with women than a lot of the really smart successful guys because they don’t overthink things and they are not scared of making mistakes. One of the problems with the university… the whole western educational system is that it’s trained to pump out really dependable, capable employees. So, you’re trained in a mindset of don’t make any mistake. So, that’s quite a good of education to be basically a cog in a wheel in a corporation. It’s not a very good education to be an entrepreneur and it’s a terrible education to be a ladies man. One of the biggest lessons I’ve ever had in my life about this stuff is when I’ve got to hang out with a guy who is really, really, really amazing with women—in terms of doing it at night. I was quite good at meeting girls during the day at that stage of my life but I was, you know, limited skill at night and this guy was amazing. It’s like there wouldn’t be a night he wouldn’t get, you know, what most guys consider an eight and a half out of ten or better. Anyway, I’m out with him one night and we meet two really attractive girls who turned out to be models. We spent about half an hour talking to them. And it was going really well. At one stage, I took a photo and I wasn’t necessarily so sure how the girls reacted to that. I thought that might have caused them to lose attraction to us. Anyway, we leave the girls and I’m walking out from one bar to another with this guy and I’ll never forget it. I’m talking to him like, “Oh what do you think it was? Was it about photo? Or was it this thing I said about that? Or did maybe you do that? Or did that girl like you and this girl liked me?” and I’m just sort of analysing, fretting, stuck in my head trying to figure out exactly what went wrong. And he’s like, “Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah could be, yeah, you’re probably right man. Yeah, yeah, that was it, yeah, sure you’re right. Yeah, good on you man.” And then he walks straight into the next location, just sort of wanders up to the hottest group of girls there and before I know he’s standing with his thigh in the thigh of a really really hot girl, stroking her on the back like that, whispering into her ear, rubbing his beard against her face. Anyway, I went home that night and by the time I got home, he was already at home having just slept with that girl and back to bar to get another. Again, I’m not endorsing this as a desirable lifestyle but this guy was very very good at getting really attractive girls quickly and consistently. And so, what did I learn off him? This guy never even finished high school, certainly never been to university. He just didn’t about shit. He didn’t think about it. He just got to a certain point realised that it wasn’t gonna happen and he moved on to the next one. So, for all you highly educated guys here, you’re probably tripping over your IQ failing with women. So, just remember the motto of every great, of every man who’s truly good with women. Next! Just move on the next one. Stop trying to figure out women. They’re not automatons that you can perfectly predict their every movement with enough data input. Just go on and make one of the other 3.75 billion women in the world. Anyway, hope you found this little piece from my Bootcamp really useful. If you liked it subscribe, like, subscribe for my Top 10 Mistakes free lead magnet or something like that and I’ll see you in the next video.