Gratitude & love aren’t enough || An educated rant on feeling the dark side || with Irene Lyon October 9, 2019 56 By Ronny Jaskolski Related posts: Educate The Chaos || Regulation Before Relaxation || IRENE LYON How to work with anger in a healthy way || EDUCATION + DEMO || IreneLyon Shock Trauma First Aid || Education EPISODE || with Irene Lyon Public perceptions of American veterans after 9/11 | IN 60 SECONDS CategoryArticles BlogTagsanxiety darkside depression education emotionalintelligence emotions feelings fibromyalgia grattitude irenelyon love matrix mentalhealth mentalillness ptsd redpill somaticexperiencing stress thematrix trauma vlog youtuber 56 Comments Alison Kingston Health Coach says: August 2, 2016 at 8:01 am Thank you so much for your work, your realness and open heart xxxx Reply Lawrence Davis says: August 2, 2016 at 10:32 am I feel the same way. I've tried explaining this to people I know with a host of issues from depression to bi polar issues and I just get ignored. Reply Amy Phoenix says: August 2, 2016 at 11:35 am Always inspiring Irene, thank you for being real. Reply Cat Henderson says: August 2, 2016 at 7:07 pm Thank you! For your rawness and honesty. Verbalising what I have been feeling & feel, & still struggle to face some of the work I need to do <3 Reply Johnny ROBERT says: August 2, 2016 at 8:13 pm Thank you Irene for this video! I really love your work and explanations about what is driving us as being a human being. The way things are handled is very wrong but even if is we are not seeing the whole picture. Reply MyChantay says: August 4, 2016 at 1:07 pm You are amazing Irene! Thank you for being you!!!I compleatly get you and what you see in all the abuse going on in this world. To small for most to see- but I see it and I wonder constantly if I am mad in seeing all these wrong doings or the world/other people are mad! My love to you Reply Marcia Harms says: August 4, 2016 at 4:35 pm No, no, it is not failing! Yes, we have a lot to go to get to a place where life grows more and more beautiful each and every day. I do not have a minute to spare as I need to get to work. I spend the day helping people to handle their despair, work the feelings, try to find their inner strength to pull out of that highly enmeshed sympathetic stuck position. Empathy is the answer and a must to help that education in the human form, to embody it early on. I will finish when I get home from work. My daughter and granddaughter are leaving today, so my tears will get to me but I need to get on with my day. Looking forward to finishing this video when I return home tonight. Just know we are all there to support your feelings and hope for your own health and ease to discharge that anger and sadness so relief comes more and more quickly with each emotional release. I still use the video early on you made of the ANS which gets me by more often than ever before. Especially the need to socialize to strengthen the polyvagal side that can benefit our health. Thanks and hope you training goes well this month. Reply Michelle Yamamoto says: August 4, 2016 at 4:50 pm thank you Irene for this frank talk about the condition of ourselves and the planet of which I share your sentiment and deep concern. My Brave Art workshop for Youth of which I am on day four of my third series this summer is with some amazing kids that have been very forthcoming with the subjects of school-bullying and difficult friendships in their lives. I have pondered if I am able to hit head on the subject of whether the main source of their anxiety is their parents as I've only lightly suggested that it could be. Thanks for putting into words what I think I can share with them today. Sending a big hug.xoxo Reply Patti Bosomworth says: August 4, 2016 at 6:51 pm Hey Irene,…Me too. I cry, too. I get angry, too. I know about freeze, dissociation, and by-pass/override AND, I am aiming to live embodied wholeness and realness, aliveness, including the pleasure [and pain] of "being [fully present and alive] with what is, as it is," the whole enchilada! I figure that if I am not willing or able to be fully present and alive with the whole enchilada, then what is the point of the "human experiment?" I'm having trouble, however, with the thought that the human experiment is failing. Yes, I too experience pain when I witness abuse and suffering…AND, I also experience a lift in my heart when I witness immense courage and compassionate heart-action in this world. You remind me I do this healing work because I have to…it's my free choice…and, I have to. When I am connected, whole enchilada, I act on behalf of wholeness. Where there is wholeness, I don't see failure of the "human expirement." Thank you for holding space for courage, reconnection, and wholeness. Reply Bodendog says: September 22, 2016 at 6:01 pm I am not sure how you found my email and connected with me…but I am grateful. I am angry and sad and repacking all the shit that was never put away properly. I feel that I may be seeing more of you…..thankfully I am being offered the chance to do this in a way that resonates with who I am. Keep up the great work! Reply Bodendog says: September 22, 2016 at 6:01 pm oops-watching under my son's profile! hehehe Reply Sharon Hanna says: October 14, 2016 at 3:54 pm Thank you Irene. I am sharing your videos with others….Why I can only go to some people's yoga classes 😉 It is all very sad…..coming to a head with the American election too….so much stress for folks. Glad you are going to go for it. I am feeling my mortality too…. Reply Battle Hymn of the Empath says: November 7, 2016 at 1:09 pm I'm sorry, the statement that aggressive people are made and not born is simply not true. there are those born with congenital psychopathy. They are all rage and little else. These cases cannot be remedied. Reply Elaine Collins says: December 29, 2016 at 10:58 pm I feel you Irene, your very real and genuine person! That's what I love about you. World peace.xx Reply Deborah Mullins says: January 4, 2017 at 2:23 am Thank you Irene I totally appreciate where you are coming from and its so important in these times….because we are here….and we need to let the heart break and to hold the light and I love it that we are more and more speaking this way. I love that you speak of our mortality which I also have really become more and more conscious of. And how to hold it all without cutting off…again. Such a rich conversation we can have …love Reply Kerith O says: February 9, 2017 at 4:41 pm How did you teach yourself to feel anger and not feel guilt about it? Reply Maria Liedke says: March 12, 2017 at 5:35 am i am in the depression (Freeze) after dealing with survival anxiety (Fight and Flight) for many years…i feel too much and get overwhelmed so i freeze as noone wants to feel and i am the crazy one! Reply Faithezda says: March 18, 2017 at 9:44 am This is so serious. I "have" these weep moments very often. Maybe this can safe us from cold irony and indifference. Thank you Irene ! I'll read more… Reply Andrew Griffin says: May 26, 2017 at 1:50 am Irene, thank you for walking the talk; and "feeling for real"; encouraging us to feel all our emotions. I found your comments so heartening. I'm just starting to address childhood trauma not using NLP or any of the other "quick fix" tools but by reconnecting and feeling. Such important work you do. Reply Lisa Pratt says: August 9, 2017 at 5:30 pm Yes!!! THIS!! Thank you! Reply Theresa Adams says: August 11, 2017 at 1:36 am I'm always sad and cry all the time diagnosed as severe depression lost both parents at age 6 grew up home to home just want to feel happy inside u know ur informative and I like it I've always been the person to want to please everyone cuz I don't like comfertation Reply Christina Mueller says: September 19, 2017 at 4:25 pm Wow!!!!! Fantastic! Irene, I take my head off to you big time for being real and telling it as it is! I love your work and your commitment, your passion and your heart! You are a great inspiration for me. I am burning to educate the world like you do (just haven't gotten very far with it yet). I'm studying Trauma, it is SO SO relevant. So great to listen to you! Thank you!!!! Keep it coming. Love A Reply Pieta Johann says: October 8, 2017 at 1:55 am What a breath of fresh air, all this is… Thank you so much, Irene…💜 Reply Greg White says: October 10, 2017 at 1:03 pm Working from inside out, on what I know as modern alchemy, last evening i 'brought on' a 'neural release', and with it a profound sustainable sense of liberation. I believe you are a modern alchemist, and there is a spontaneous alchemy occurring worldwide, based on the sense of what Thic Nhat Hahn calls Inter-being, or in Zulu Ubuntu. Namaste. Reply kjbrocky says: October 12, 2017 at 10:55 pm I wish I could cry. Everyone always stifled me. My whole life. I'm 50 and I want to cry and get it out but it just won't. Reply kjbrocky says: October 12, 2017 at 11:07 pm I agree with you. I'm sick of the new-age philosophy of "if it's negative, don't think or talk about it"! (I.e. Esther "Abraham" Hicks, etc.) The great author John Gray always said, "you need to feel it to heal it." Thank you for your channel and for offering us some very much-needed tools to heal. Reply Alex Segal says: November 9, 2017 at 11:02 am Hooray for you!! So much cover up in the so called spiritual world… being real is the deal Reply Ayaime 33 says: November 26, 2017 at 6:43 pm I love this video its one of my base line vids. Reply Ildiko Davis says: November 29, 2017 at 9:11 pm I felt so deeply with you when you shared about the pain and anger over the state of the world that we can't help but fee l- if we feel at all. How can we enjoy what we have – our privileged life, as you so rightly said – when it's so overwhelming to be aware of the magnitude of problems that we (ie. humanity) is facing? How do you protect yourself from being paralysed by all the things you can't help with and stay focused on the work that you can do? Reply Nuno Rente says: January 23, 2018 at 9:48 am Hello dear shining Irene Lyon! I have watched 2 or thee of your videos, I think you touch several very important subjects, and more, you go deep and ahead….but in many points our opinion diverge and that is healthy and important, what I feel about anger is…first is fading away every day, but not because I am supressing it, but because I believe, I have face it and gone deep inside it and then discovered that it is just an emotion…I do not know if I am able to explain but…you say, "we are anger, hate and other negative tings and of course we are Love and Gratitude…"…I see the other way…we Are Love, Compassion and Joy in our true essence, but as we have been for so long disconnected, we forgot our true essence…the negative feelings are a result of the disconnection from Love, the disconnection from Oneness….the other subject my opinion diverge from yours is that the world is not getting worst our failing, we already have passed the turn point…think about the things that used to happen a thousand or two thousand years ago…the people, children, nobody used to have any rights, the killing, stealing, rapping, torture were an everyday subject and so on…the question is that right now we have the information avaiable and we are being daily "bombed" with negative information by the Media which sells what people still want to watch: violence (as the roman used to have the Circus….)…but slowly the global consciousness is starting to change…generation, by generation, one by one the humans are waking up to a new consciousness….so if you feel anger, of course, go and accept it, express it, whatever you feel, but as when you put a drop of red paint in a blue paint recipient the color is slightly altered, the same happens with human consciousness….we put a drop of Love…we are increasing the "Color" of Love….we put a drop of Anger, we are increasing the "Color" of Anger…cause we are all together One Consciousness….I hope my words make any sense to you, I do Love your shares and I believe you are following your intuition…but I wanted to share this ideas with you! 😀 Much Love! <3 <3 <3 Reply Andrew G says: January 25, 2018 at 1:06 pm I have c-ptsd and depression and anxiety but I'm angry at myself because of regrets and feel trapped in the past because of it and that makes me more angry over the trauma. Reply Debra G. says: April 4, 2018 at 1:16 am I'm new here! I love this woman and her teachings! Reply Evelyn Avanti says: May 26, 2018 at 9:37 pm Excellent! Thank you for your boldness in speaking the truth. This is why I've never been a believer in affirmations. Feels like just spraying air freshener; a "spiritual bypass" over all the dark, difficult emotions and issues that need to be healed. I'm so glad someone told me about you. I really resonate with what you express. Reply 93parasol says: June 9, 2018 at 11:15 am You are so amazing. I love this vlog very much. When I have been thinking about my purpose in life… what I want to give to other people, what you say here is very close to me. I want to be able to give to other people the idea that there feelings are true and that they matter. That false and forced positivity can be a really dangerous thing. That even the worst darkness of you – are there for a reason and that reason is never unvalid. I know I need to heal more myself before I can teach anyone else anything but I still like to think about it. Reply Sün says: July 11, 2018 at 2:38 pm I can not tell you enough how finding you has cemented everything I was already feeling. I am a yoga anatomy teacher and what you have inspired in me is to continue to teach to others how trauma affects us and our health. Finally all the pieces of the puzzle are unfolding. Thank you so much. And now I’m going to have a good cry! Reply dini dini says: August 9, 2018 at 7:20 am Thank you Irene, i am constantly overwhelmed by fight or flight responses. After your talk i finally could cry and acknowledge my frustration and anger about the german social system. And now i can after years …cry..feel it all. I spend many years in india and yesterday i saw a report how the traditions makes it horrible to be a woman in this country. Iam so angry with this country, so deeply disappointed. And the thing is being there as a young woman i did notice how they treat me but i couldn't express it, fighting with myself, trying to understand the indians i had to deal with, being compassionate. This didn't helped i just put it deeper into my emotional pain body. This morning i can not put it deeper, it is there it wants to be seen, no fake smile can cope it anymore. I do not feel hate anymore just deeply touched, sad, angry, crying but good…!! Reply Alison Jones says: March 4, 2019 at 5:02 am Thank you Irene Reply Kuruflower says: March 6, 2019 at 6:41 am Dearest Irene, I see more movement toward waking up, and seeing more of our humanness than before. I believe things get worse on their way to get better. It appears the covers are coming off of the bed, so to speak, and we are able to see much clearer what is actually going on, and its not pretty at times…. but isn't that what we need.. to See. And then with tender hearts and strong hands we do the work to heal it, to address it, to bring light onto it. There was a movement at first to make things look pretty. I believe it was to give people strength for the next act…. to see the truth. It is not for the faint at heart as you are aware of. By making this video I believe you are asking us to turn around now kids and look at the truth. And yeah – its harsh and frightening. And then – what do we do with it, i mean we see it – now what? And you are showing us what. And each one of us that heals this – our own damaged parts – we can help others, and we won't need degrees – we will have Wisdom!!!! There is so much work to be done, and it will take all of us to push 'the wheel of dharma' – to push the movement, and i believe just by witnessing and being present and having compassion, we are doing this! By listening to eachother as you described you are doing with the children next door – that matters so very much! We can remind everyone: alcoholism, drug abuse, work overload, all of it – we can remind them, remind ourselves – we forgot who we are! We are souls living in human bodies. We have minds, emotions, bodies, energy bodies, personalities. And we have our societal pasts, pushes, and hang ups. We are beautiful, and it is all working out. We are safe and it is okay. It is all love – weird to see that right? But it is. The anger, rage, sadness, joy, its all a part of us (as you pointed out), and we are all a part of a higher power that is far advanced. We can create an idea of what that 'higher power' means, but that is from our limited perspective. I believe there is a purging going on, and it is getting a bit intense right now. Purging is good for toxins. And then the healing comes. It is so powerful to have support. Thank you from my very depths. I bow to the beauty within you. Joy, Light, Love in your heart today and each day for the rest of eternity, to you and all beings. Ramona Reply Clare Dodd says: March 17, 2019 at 8:41 pm Irene – thankyou for being raw and real. You hit a vulnerable cord with me as I'm sure you have with many many other people. xx Reply Gregory Taylor says: March 31, 2019 at 6:05 am I think it's worth questioning whether or not The Matrix is a good analogy. This questioning is what I call the pink pill. I also think it's worth asking whether gratitude is merely a deodorant or something that gets to work on what causes the mold. All is as it should be, it always was and always will be, everything's a gift to be gratefully received. Love the world as it is and the world will change. In heart's hell, flame of heaven,Impurity purging holy pyre;Torch intangible, wrongs atoning,Light almighty, making amends. And please don't jump to the conclusion that I must be a Christian, most of my inspiration comes from mythology. Reply Jay Kara says: April 25, 2019 at 8:43 pm My mum passed away and my dad has dementia and I have suffering from anxiety, now I am getting so tired cos of my dad and not enjoying my life .thank you . Reply B Mc says: April 28, 2019 at 9:49 pm You are so awesome and an inspiration for the rest of us in tears…❤️❤️❤️ Reply Steven Woolvine says: May 7, 2019 at 8:22 pm Oh I've been following you for some time now i always get distracted by finding other ways of 'dealing' with my anxiety and always ALWAYS get drawn back to you and your work… cant believe i have not seen this video of you before its beautiful to see a vulnerable side you if that's the right term brought a tear to my eye. From now on i'm going to stick with you and basically stick with what works ! (P.s i hope your neighbours children are in a better place) x Reply Sky Kai says: June 22, 2019 at 1:55 am thats very refreshing to hear! i just found you 2 days ago and have been binge watching you and i love so much what you have to say. it is the missing piece in my healing journey from early developmental trauma of emotionally unavailable mother, alcoholic father when i was a baby and then 2 week stay at a hospital all alone when i almost died and was only 3… have been struggling with hyper vigilance and freeze in life and much neck/adrenal back pain and after finding you i am committing to do this work to feel my emotions, my body and heal my nervous system. i did the orienting exercise several times and kidney/adrenal touch exercise yesterday and wow, the back pain is literally 80% gone! it felt so comforting like coming home in a way to speak to my body and just love it for what it has been doing for me all these years in spite of all the crap i put it through. Your message is so important and i commend you for speaking your truth and providing these resources for us who have done everything and don't know what to do.. xoxo Reply Marcia Patrice Ganeles-Kislik says: June 26, 2019 at 2:08 am <3 thank you Irene Reply didiydi says: June 30, 2019 at 5:19 pm Wow!! Thank you so much for this honesty and sanity Irene, I feel if there are people like you in the world who speak the way you speak, it’s finally safe for me to be me. This is probably my most favourite video on YouTube.💖 Reply daniel ross says: July 9, 2019 at 10:08 pm Love your shit ❤️✌🏼 Reply KetrinTramel8332 says: July 24, 2019 at 2:34 pm I love you, for quite some time.. And this is by far my favourite video of yours ❤️ this is something I want to talk about as soon as I heal a little more Reply Cheryl Wilsher Limberlife says: July 28, 2019 at 10:42 am Thank you for being here for us Irene, & being a real human 💜🙏totally understand & agree 100 percent with your video here, loving the matrix mix in here too. Reply Cheryl Wilsher Limberlife says: July 28, 2019 at 11:13 am Dont know what I would have done without you Irene. Crying right now as I see it all, doing the work so that we can all heal 💜 Reply Vivianne1124 says: August 1, 2019 at 9:32 pm Thank you for speaking the truth. I have seen countless of so called “advanced meditators” when they get off their meditation cushion, are so toxic to be around, so toxic …. Reply Kari Haugen says: August 6, 2019 at 8:13 pm Irene Lyon….Would you make us a Healthy Anger meditation?… Reply Marie Perillo says: August 6, 2019 at 10:51 pm been crying and angry and dealing with the shit that is going on especially when i sense and witness the unconscious behaviour of adults who don't want to hear any word of taking responsability for their doing…. humanity just wants fluffy positive talk just rubbish don't like humans at all….. get on with my survival and in gratitude i can listen cry reflect with you. Grazie Irene oxo Reply mysteryjet2007 says: September 2, 2019 at 6:50 am So glad you exist and say what you say and that my soul can hear it x Reply Diana Boughner says: September 11, 2019 at 4:01 am 👍👍💖 Reply Riina Rõõm says: September 18, 2019 at 8:37 pm Thank you so much. This was exactly what i needed right now. 🙏 Reply Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. 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