College Educated Women Can’t Find Love

College Educated Women Can’t Find Love

September 17, 2019 100 By Ronny Jaskolski


IN MANY METROPOLITAN AREAS IN
THE U.S. IT SEEMS LIKE COLLEGE EDUCATED WOMEN ARE HAVING A HARD
TIME FINDING LOVE, AND A NUMBER OF PEOPLE HAVE BLAMED IT
ON A NUMBER OF DIFFERENT THINGS LIKE HOOKUP CULTURE OR
DATING APPS. WHAT IS IT REALLY? WHAT IS THE UNDERLYING ISSUE
AMONG WOMEN AND WHY ARE THEY HAVING A HARD TIME
FINDING A PARTNER? THERE WAS A BOOK WRITTEN CALLED
DATE-ONOMICS, WRITTEN BY JON BIRGER THAT DELVED INTO THE
ISSUE OF THE ABUNDANCE OF COLLEGE EDUCATED WOMEN AND THE RARITY
OF COLLEGE EDUCATED MEN IN CERTAIN PARTS OF THE COUNTRY AND
HOW THAT PLAYS A ROLE IN WHETHER OR NOT WOMEN ARE
LIKELY TO FIND A PARTNER. ACCORDING TO RECENT STATISTICS,
THE CURRENT COLLEGE CLASS BREAKDOWN OF WOMEN TO MEN IS
57 TO 43, WHICH MEANS THERE WILL BE ABOUT
ONE THIRD MORE WOMEN THAN MEN WITH COLLEGE
DEGREES WHEN GRADUATION ARRIVES. HE CONTINUES TO SAY THAT THE
SEXUAL REVOLUTION AND THE HOOKUP CULTURE ARE BOTH ROOTED IN A
STATISTICAL OVERSUPPLY OF WOMEN. SO IT’S ALL ABOUT
SUPPLY AND DEMAND. IF THERE IS AN OVERSUPPLY OF
EDUCATED WOMEN AND THERE IS A GREATER DEMAND FOR EDUCATED
MEN, AND NOW LESS AND LESS MEN ARE GETTING COLLEGE DEGREES,
WE’RE GOING TO HAVE AN ISSUE. LET ME GIVE YOU SOME MORE STATS. IN 1981, IT WAS THE LAST YEAR
THAT MORE MEN THAN WOMEN GRADUATED FROM A FOUR-YEAR
UNDERGRADUATE PROGRAM. THAT IS AMAZING. 39 PERCENT MORE WOMEN AGES 22 TO
29 WITH COLLEGE DEGREES IN MANHATTAN THAN MEN IN
THE SAME BRACKET. IF YOU LOOK AT SPECIFIC AREAS
LIKE FORT LAUDERDALE, THEY HAVE 71 PERCENT WERE FEMALE COLLEGE
GRADS THAN MALE BETWEEN AGES 22 TO 29, FOLLOWED BY PROVIDENCE,
THAT HAS 60 PERCENT MORE. HE SAYS THE GUYS THAT DO HAVE
COLLEGE DEGREES ARE SAYING THEY ARE A CATCH.>>I DIDN’T KNOW
WHAT A CATCH I WAS.>>JIMMY TOLD ME YOU WERE
WORKING ON YOUR PHD?>>OH, SHUT UP.>>JOHN IS ONE
OF THE SMARTEST PEOPLE I KNOW. MOVING ON, IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU
JOHN, IT’S ABOUT PEOPLE IN GENERAL. I DON’T BEGRUDGE THE GUYS FOR
FEELING THAT WAY, THEY HAVE MORE OPTIONS. AS A RESULT THEY ARE ABLE TO BE
PICKIER WITH THE WOMEN THEY DATE. FOR INSTANCE THEY MIGHT DATE
A WOMAN WHO THEY DEEM INTELLIGENT AND BEAUTIFUL BUT
THEY ARE ALWAYS WONDERING WHETHER THERE’S SOMEONE OUT
THERE WHO IS EVEN MORE BEAUTIFUL OR MORE INTELLIGENT. AGAIN, THERE IS THIS
OVERABUNDANCE OF COLLEGE EDUCATED WOMEN. MY ANSWER TO ALL OF THIS IS THAT
ALL THESE WOMEN WHO ONLY WANT TO BE WITH COLLEGE EDUCATED
MEN NEED TO CALM THE HELL DOWN AND BE OPEN-MINDED. LOOK, THE PERSON I AM WITH RIGHT
NOW DOES NOT HAVE A COLLEGE DEGREE BECAUSE HE WAS DRAFTED
INTO PROFESSIONAL BASEBALL OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL. HE IS FUCKING AMAZING, ONE OF
THE SMARTEST PEOPLE I HAVE EVER MET IN MY LIFE. HIS LACK OF COLLEGE DEGREE
DOES NOT CONCERN ME AT ALL. I THINK WE PUT TOO MUCH EMPHASIS
ON WHETHER OR NOT A COLLEGE DEGREE MEANS THAT YOU ARE AN
INTELLIGENT PERSON. IT DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE SMART.>>YES. THE OTHER MEN THAT YOU HAVE GONE
ON DATES WITH, HAS THERE BEEN ANY CORRELATION?>>I’M NOTORIOUS FOR DATING GUYS
WITH NO COLLEGE DEGREES. MY PREVIOUS BOYFRIENDS DID NOT
HAVE COLLEGE DEGREES. THAT’S OKAY.
I HAVE GREAT RELATIONSHIPS. A COLLEGE DEGREE DOES
NOT MEAN ANYTHING.>>WELL, IT DOESN’T MEAN
YOU ARE A BETTER PERSON.>>BELIEVE ME PEOPLE MAKE
THINGS OF THEMSELVES WITHOUT COLLEGE DEGREES. TO ME WHAT MATTERS MORE IS
WHETHER OR NOT THAT PERSON IS INTELLECTUALLY CURIOUS. IF YOU ARE INTELLECTUALLY
COURTEOUS YOU EDUCATE YOURSELF. YOU HAVE RESOURCES AT YOUR
DISPOSAL YOU CAN LEARN ABOUT ANYTHING YOU WANT. THAT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO ME
THAN ANY TYPE OF COLLEGE DEGREE. ALSO, ARE THEY A GOOD PERSON?
HOW ABOUT LOOKING INTO THAT?>>IF YOU FIND A PERSON THAT
DIDN’T GO TO COLLEGE, THAT DOESN’T MEAN ONE THING. THAT COULD MEAN DIFFERENT
THINGS. MAYBE THEY WERE CARING FOR A
FAMILY MEMBER THAT WAS SICK? MAYBE THEY WERE TOO POOR TO GO
TO COLLEGE? THAT IS A THING. ARE YOU GOING TO TELL ME THAT
THAT IS A BETTER THING THAN THAT PERSON WHO IS SMARTER?
NO. I THINK WOMEN LARGELY ARE
PROBABLY UNDERCUTTING THEIR OWN CHANCES OF SUCCESS BY
REQUIRING THAT THE MEN HAVE A COLLEGE DEGREE, BUT I WANT
WOMEN TO FIND LOVE. IT SEEMS LIKE WE WILL HAVE TO
SET UP SOME SORT OF AFFIRMATIVE ACTION THING FOR
MANY COLLEGE TO GET MORE MEN THROUGH THE COLLEGE
SYSTEM AND GRADUATE. WE NEED TO PROVIDE SCHOLARSHIPS
OR SOMETHING.>>THAT’S HILARIOUS.>>
THEY COULD GO. MEN AREN’T NATURALLY STUPID. WE JUST DON’T LIKE TO
FINISH COLLEGE.>>I DON’T KNOW IF YOU’RE BEING
SERIOUS OR NOT.>>I WAS JOKING.>>ALSO, I DON’T KNOW WHAT’S
GOING ON WITH THE LACK OF MEN IN COLLEGES, BUT MAYBE WE SHOULD
FIGURE OUT WHY THAT IS AN ISSUE. MAYBE WE SHOULD SOLVE
THAT PROBLEM? BUT AGAIN, A COLLEGE DEGREE IS
NOT THE END-ALL BE-ALL. THERE ARE SO MANY OTHER
QUALITIES THAT PEOPLE BRING TO THE TABLE. INTELLECTUAL CURIOSITY,
AMBITION, SINCERITY, LOYALTY, THOSE ARE ALL THINGS I
PERSONALLY CARE ABOUT WAY MORE THAN A STUPID
PIECE OF PAPER.>>I DON’T USE A LOT OF THE APPS
THAT MAKE UP THIS CULTURE, BUT I’M SURPRISED THAT WOMEN IN
THIS STUDY EVEN KNOW IF THE GUYS HAVE ONE OR NOT. IT SEEMS LIKE ALL THE APPS HAVE
A SHOT OF THE GUY’S ABS.>>HOOKING UP IS VERY DIFFERENT
FROM WANTING TO ESTABLISH A MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP.