China’s Highly Educated Women Are More Likely to be ‘Leftover Women’
Hey guys, welcome to InChina. In the past few days, I took travel to Tibet, which is a fabulous place that you guys have to visit. In this video, We’re going to talk about why highly-educated women are not a good catch in China. Recently a father in Hangzhou city, Zhejiang province who tried to seek a blind date for his 38-year-old daughter. Said, he had to lie about her daughter’s education and hide the fact that she has two master‘s degrees in Finance and Accounting. In the video, the father said his daughter got the master’s degrees in Australia after graduating from Zhejiang University, one of the top-notch universities in China. His daughter is based in Shanghai as a register accountant, earning 300,000 yuan(45,000 dollars). He was quite upset that her daughter was still single. (Don’t come back home until you’ve got a boyfriend.) As you can see getting a master’s in China would be an obstacle for woman to getting a boyfriend or getting married. Sadly, this is true for some Chinese. Usually a guy would think that his wife should not be superior to him in terms of social status, income, education and family background. Is that people used to say 女子无才便是德？ In English, it means lack of talent in a woman would be a virtue. Yeah, but I mean it is 2018… oh, 2019…excuse me… Traditionally, people who think that being a woman you should 相夫教子 (Support your husband and raise your children.) You do not need to be highly-educated, but it seems ridiculous now. That’s right. Nowadays Chinese women are as educated and independent as men. But somehow people… yeah like me. But somehow some people still cannot stand a woman being too outstanding. You just could not accept. Just like in this case, the woman is well-educated and got a good job. So, some men would think, oh, she will be too independent to be my wife and she will be out of my league. Oh. I guess only guys who was superior to her will date her like a doctor I mean, PhD or some guys who are open-minded like us. Yeah who don’t care his wife being “女强人”（able women） Some people even think that if you marry a “女强人” Your marriage is more likely to fail. Why? Because she will focus more on her career instead of her family. Yeah. Instead of her family. And, she would have strong opinions about something which sometimes will lead to a quarrel. You know There’s another traditional or typical Chinese view about marriage “门当户对” which means, Finding a spouse whose family is equally matched to yours. Yeah, nowadays for young people They don’t have such rigid status. They just fall in love with whoever they love. Mostly, it is just the parents who helped so many requirements. But I think it still makes sense-门当户对 Because people from different family conditions and different family environment may share totally different view of the world So I don’t think it is a very bad thing for parents to help set requirements. But you know, Chinese parents, they worry too much. In the story, We just mentioned the daughter is already 38. But her father still tries to help her with the blind-date. And he even told her never to come back home without a boyfriend. Seriously, you know for Chinese parents their mission is not only to raise their children but also to guarantee they get married and have kids. Yeah, that’s the problem. Only after finishing all of this, their mission is complete. So there are such things like ‘Marriage Market’ （相亲角）. In many cities in China, The interesting thing is, they are not for unmarried people, they are for parents of unmarried people to seek blind date for their children. Parents only. That’s why people would say “养儿一百岁，常忧九十九”. Which means, if you could live to 100 years old, you will still worried about your kids for 99 years. It’s kind of terrified in Chinese culture. But still, it is better to leave decision to the kids only Like I always tell my parents: retire and enjoy your life Speaking of culture of marriage or family, I know there’s big difference between foreign countries and China. They seem like not so bonded with each other. So, you can tell us in the comments. Yep, don’t forget to like, save and subscribe our channel. We’d love to receive your feedback. See you next time. Bye.